Friendships Take Effort

Hey love,

Let’s talk about something real for a second: friendships. Like, the good kind—the ones that make your heart happy, your laugh louder, and your wine nights unforgettable. You know, the ones you can’t imagine life without. Here’s the thing, though… those friendships? They don’t just happen.

I know, I know. Wouldn’t it be dreamy if we could just stumble into our next soul-sister connection while grabbing a latte or scrolling on our phones? But the truth is, building those deep, ride-or-die connections takes time, effort, and maybe a sprinkle of courage.

There’s this romanticized idea out there that the best friendships are supposed to be easy—like, if it’s “meant to be,” everything will magically click without anyone lifting a finger. But let’s get real: even the closest friendships require showing up, being vulnerable, and making space in your life for someone else.

Friendships grow when you nurture them. It's the random “thinking of you” texts, the plans you keep even when Netflix is calling your name, and the little ways you let someone know they matter.

I get it—it can feel a little awkward or even intimidating to put yourself out there, especially as an adult. But let’s flip the script: every incredible friendship you’ve ever had started somewhere, right? Maybe it was a casual “Hey, love your sweater” or bonding over a mutual love of true crime podcasts. You never know what little moment can spark something bigger.

So, here’s the challenge: take a step. Say yes to that coffee date, start that group chat, or even organize a casual game night. The effort you put in is like planting seeds, and girl, those seeds grow into the most beautiful, badass friendships when you tend to them.

One last thing, babe: friendships don’t need to be perfect. No one’s life is Instagram-filtered 24/7 (thank God). The best friendships are the ones where you can show up messy, a little stressed, or even a little cranky—and still feel loved for exactly who you are.

So, let’s stop waiting for the stars to align or for the “perfect” friend to just appear out of thin air. Instead, let’s be the kind of friend we’d want to have. Let’s show up, reach out, and make the effort. Because trust me, the reward is worth it—a life full of laughter, love, and women who make your soul sing.

Here’s to making it happen,

Your girl 💖

P.S. Need a little inspo to start? Send this letter to someone you adore and say, “Hey, let’s hang out soon.” You never know what kind of magic it might create. ✨