I Started This Group Because I Needed It—And Maybe You Do, Too

I remember sitting in my car one night, gripping the steering wheel, staring out at nothing in particular. It had been one of those days. The kind where everything feels a little too heavy, where you wonder how much longer you can hold it all together before something cracks.

I wasn’t sure where to go. Home? A random parking lot to sit in silence? Somewhere I didn’t have to be needed by anyone?

And then my phone buzzed.

“I don’t know if you need this, but I’m here. Wine, laughter, or silence—your choice.”

A woman from The Girlfriend Hub. Someone I hadn’t even known a year ago. And yet, somehow, she knew. She picked up on something in my voice earlier that day, something in the way I wasn’t quite myself.

And in that moment, I realized: I wasn’t carrying it all alone.

People assume I started The Girlfriend Hub because I wanted to help other women find friendship. And sure, that’s part of it. But the truth? I needed it.

I needed a space where I could show up exactly as I was—on the good days, the bad days, and the weird in-between days where I wasn’t sure what I was feeling.

I needed friends who didn’t just check in when things were hard, but who showed up for the joy, too.

I needed people who just got it. Who knew what it was like to feel stretched thin, to sit in the in-between of major life changes, to wonder when exactly did I become the person responsible for everything?

And let me tell you, life has not held back on giving me reasons to lean on these women.

Losing my mother-in-law just as this group was forming.

Staring down the reality of an empty nest.

Sitting in a hospital waiting room while my dad underwent open-heart surgery, time warping between crawling and racing.

Trying to navigate career struggles and moments of, What the hell am I even doing?

Through it all, these women have shown up.

Women who notice when my laugh doesn’t quite reach my eyes and send texts that hit me right in the heart.

Women who have literally left meetings and/or their comfy couch to sit with me when I just needed to fall apart.

Women who have said, “What do you need? I’ll take care of your kids, your house, your animals—whatever.” No hesitation, no questions asked.

Women who hype me up on my best days and hold me up on my worst.

I needed women who got it—not just the struggles, but the celebrations. Who would cheer the loudest when something amazing happened and send a “We’re getting margaritas to celebrate” text before I even had a chance to process the news.

Women who notice when I need a pep talk but also when I just need someone to send me a ridiculous meme that makes me laugh so hard I nearly pee myself.

Women who would hype me up when I had a win, not just console me when I had a loss.

Women who would say, “You did something amazing! We’re celebrating. Get dressed.”

And let me tell you—this group has shown up in every possible way.

Like the time I was drowning in stress, juggling too many things, and out of nowhere, someone said, “Let me bring you coffee tomorrow. No arguments.” And they did.

Or the day I was overwhelmed with taking care of family, and someone said, “I can cover for you—whatever you need. Your animals? Your house? Done. Don’t even think about it.”

Or that time when I was this close to losing it, and a group text popped up with something so outrageously funny that I snorted my drink out of my nose.

Women who will text “Let’s do something dumb and fun this weekend—no excuses.”

Women who remind me that I don’t have to do life alone, but also that life is meant to be fun.

This was never just about friendship—it’s about living life fully

Had The Girlfriend Hub never started, I wouldn’t have these women.

I wouldn’t have the late-night group chats that make me laugh so hard I snort into my pillow.

I wouldn’t have the spontaneous, “Drop what you’re doing, we need an emergency margarita night” texts.

I wouldn’t have the random text threads that turn into inside jokes that last for months.

I wouldn’t have the “Hey, I saw this and thought of you” messages that make me feel so damn seen.

And I definitely wouldn’t have the reminder—over and over again—that I don’t have to be the strong one all the time.

Because this isn’t just about having people to lean on when life is hard. It’s about having people to jump up and down with when life is good.

It’s about being seen. Being known. Being part of something.

And I know I’m not the only one who needs this.

I know there are women out there—maybe you—who have plenty of people to “wave at” but no one to call when they get good news. Who love their family but crave friendships that are just for them. Who have a group chat that’s always buzzing but can never seem to get schedules to line up for an actual, in-person night out. Who have incredible lifelong friends—but they live hours (or states) away. Who are tired of waiting for the stars to align to have real, meaningful connection in their everyday life. Who are tired of watching other women’s friendships from the outside, wondering if that kind of connection is still possible.

So if you’re reading this and thinking, God, I need this, let me tell you something: You do.

And maybe, just maybe, The Girlfriend Hub will change your life, too.