The Secret Social Lives of Women Over 40 (That No One Talks About… Until Now)

You know that feeling when you hear someone whisper, “Okay, don’t tell anyone I told you this…” and suddenly you’re laser-focused? That’s what this is—except it’s not really a secret, and I hope you tell everyone.

Because what’s quietly happening in the lives of women over 40 is way more exciting than anyone’s letting on. And honestly? It deserves way more airtime.

We’ve all been fed the same script: that once you hit a certain age, your social circle is set, your calendar shrinks, and your idea of excitement is a solo Target run with a coffee in hand. (Okay, that is magical—but still.) The truth? That’s not the full picture. Not even close.

Something else is happening. And if you’ve been part of The Girlfriend Hub, you’ve probably felt it too.

Here’s the real tea: Somewhere between managing families, careers, and figuring out who we are now (because let’s be honest—we are not the same women we were at 25), many of us realized… we want more.

More connection. More fun. More us.

But no one told us how to find it. So we did something wild—we started creating it ourselves.

We walked into events where we didn’t know a soul.We sent the invite instead of waiting for one.We made the first move—not in dating, but in friendship.

And that’s where everything shifted.

What’s happening in our social lives right now is messy, imperfect, and totally wonderful. Women are meeting up for coffee in the park. They’re gathering around trivia tables, clinking glasses at wine nights, walking trails and swapping life stories in between steps.

And these aren’t just casual hellos. They’re the start of actual friendships—late-night-text, borrow-your-dress, I’ll-bring-you-soup kind of friendships.

The kind we were told were impossible to make after 40. They were wrong.

Here’s what no one told us, but I will: You don’t have to already have a “group.” You don’t have to wait for someone to invite you. You don’t have to show up perfectly polished. You just have to show up.

This whole secret social life thing? It’s not about being cool or cliquey or knowing the right people. It’s about being real, open, and maybe a little brave. It’s about stepping out of your comfort zone long enough to realize there’s a whole circle of women doing the exact same thing, quietly hoping someone says, “Hey, come sit with us.”

And if you’re reading this… maybe it’s your turn.

To say yes to the dinner.

To try the morning coffee thing.

To pop into that group chat even if you don’t know what to say yet.

There’s a spot for you—truly. And not just a “sure, you can come” kind of spot. I’m talking about the kind of space that expands when you enter. That feels better because you’re in it.

So now you know the secret. And the only thing left to do?

Spill it.

Invite someone in.

Or better yet—invite yourself in.

Because we’ve been waiting for you. 💕